In a marriage, everything is right when the person is right, and everything is wrong when the person is not right.

The couple can always maintain "mutual" in various things, and can always respect each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, trust each other, and have almost no problem.

If the husband and wife cannot do “ in all things, they will never be able to respect and tolerate each other, and there will be big problems sooner or later.

Someone may say, “Everyone is perfect, it is impossible for all couples to respect and tolerate each other at all times! ”Although this is the case, it is not an excuse to be perfect. Even if you cannot tolerate and respect each other at any time, you must strive to rely in this direction. No matter how you say it is much better to maintain “ mutual ” between husband and wife.

Sadly, some couples just don't know how to rely on the good direction and always stay in a very bad situation. As time goes by, the conflicts become deeper and deeper, and sooner or later the marriage will turn tragedy.

The following girl's eyes have this problem with her brother and sister-in-law's marriage. In the end, the contradictions are actually unreconciliable, so she has to divorce.

Teacher Dong Lin:

My sister-in-law and my brother are really enemies. It can be said that their marriages are quarrels from beginning to end. They quarrel every day before marriage, and they have never stopped after marriage.

They quarreled before marriage because of money, and the quarreled after marriage because of money. We have to say that money is really harmful. Once a person gets the eye on money, it depends on who is an enemy.

Although my brother also has problems, in summary, my sister-in-law's problem is even more serious.

They quarreled over money before getting married, and my brother finally made it happen. The marriage conditions were completely implemented according to my sister-in-law's requirements.

However, my sister-in-law is too selfish. Her attitude is: “My money is my money, and your money is also mine, and all the money must be handed over to me for safekeeping! ”

If the single is pure that she did not accept my brother's money after marriage, she might be a bit too much for her selfishness. But the problem is not only that. She clearly holds all the money in her hand, but when my brother needs to spend money, she keeps penniless and wants my brother to ask my mother for money and ask her father to borrow money.

Because my brother had already spent a lot of money on my family when he got married, he was embarrassed to keep asking my father and mother-in-law to borrow money when he needed money to do business.

What my brother thought at that time was that the money was in my sister-in-law's hands, so she borrowed the money from her parents, and then let her take the money from their husband and wife. But the result was that my sister-in-law didn't want to add the money, but calculated that my mother wanted to use the money "the money my brother borrowed from her parents" to add.

The incident happened on the day my mother passed the 60th anniversary, and my sister-in-law called it "I wish you a red bag" and received the gift. In fact, she wanted to pay the money for herself, and then took out a part of it to her father and mother.

When all the guests were still there, our family didn't know what idea she had made, and there was no time to deal with the "Please give me a red bag" matter. When the banquet was over, my mother asked my brother to clear the spot "Please give me a red bag" and the true face of my sister-in-law was revealed: she refused to take out the money and said that the money had been saved to the card.

My brother was very angry at that time, “Take the money my mother had lost. What's the matter with saving it? ”

My sister-in-law answered with a high spirit, “ the mother of the child is still, heaven and earthly! You owe my father and you can't afford it, of course your mother should pay it for you! ”

At the time when their couple was quarreling, my mother was so angry that she was sick and sent to the hospital. After everything was settled down, my brother went to my sister-in-law to calculate the account, and he was still ashamed of the police.

The next day, the couple divorced. My brother wanted to take away my sister-in-law so much that he was hit hard by my sister-in-law when it was divorced.

After that, my brother even borrowed money and gave all the money my mother got from being thrifted. He said that this money belongs to my mother and no one can move. well! It was said that, but my sister-in-law was so worried that my mother got the money.

People really cannot be too selfish, nor can they marry selfish people, otherwise they will end up being angry and resentful. Is it interesting? My brother and our family are so bullied, so my sister-in-law can be considered successful. If she changes to other strong in-laws, she will suffer. I hope she will do her own thing! Otherwise, if you are so selfish, you will sooner or later hit your feet!

​With a calculation in marriage, life will never be better!

Although marriage does not have an absolutely fixed pattern, some standards are fixed, and the standards of the parties doing things are also fixed. Only when both parties and families stay above the standards will there be no problems. On the contrary, if all parties are under the criteria, there will definitely be problems with the marriage..

The couple above is always breaking the marriage criteria. The husband always lives with a carefree heart. The wife always calculates this. Even if there is no "the drama of the mother-in-law's day of suffering" in the future, it will be difficult for them to last. Sooner or later, they will part due to money problems.

All marriages are most afraid of calculations. With calculations in marriages, life will never be better! If a mother-in-law calculates a daughter-in-law, it will make her life difficult; if a daughter-in-law calculates a mother-in-law, it will make her life difficult; if a husband and wife calculates each other, it will make her life even harder.

The most direct way to avoid this problem is: first, do not marry selfish people or people with high calculus; second, the calculations in marriage cannot be eliminated, so divorce as soon as possible.

For others, if there is no such problem in the marriage, we must continue to maintain it; if there is such problem in the marriage, we must solve it as early as possible. In fact, if we cannot solve it, we must divorce, otherwise the problem of "daughter-in-law exasperating her mother-in-law to hospital" in the case will really cause a big problem that is life-threatening. In the end, we will turn our faces, and no one will have a happy life.

This article is reproduced from Donglin Xiting Public No.