In the generation where prices and house prices are rising and prices are rising, people are getting less and less young for many years, because they are afraid of not being able to afford children. But there are still many couples who get pregnant and have children, and welcome the arrival of a new life. A netizen said that two friends each gave birth to a child, but due to their different economic abilities, the child's education resources are much worse, allowing her to witness the level of copying with her eyes. She couldn't help but feel that no matter how much love she has, level of copying is really unavoidable at the moment of birth! As soon as the post was exposed, it caused most people to discuss the relationship between "financial and child care".

Friends have different financial resources After the child is born, "senior eye certificate level copying" {999 999}

A netizen posted on dcard that two good friends who have known each of them for more than 10 years have recently given birth to a child. Occasionally, whenever they have time, they will come out to talk about their childbirth. But because the economic conditions of friends A and friend B are different, their parenting concepts are also very different, which makes the original PO feel "a personal verification level copy".

. Friend A's situation:

The couple collects about 200,000 yuan a month. They already have their own house and car before marriage. Both parties have good family backgrounds. They are very kind to each other when they are standard.

. Friend B's situation:

The couple collects about 70,000 yuan a month, and they don't have a house or a car, so they are currently renting a house. My friend B’s husband’s family is not well off and he has to pay part of the money he earns. My friend B is an ordinary family and can’t give money to his family. The two of them love each other very much.

And friend B's parents had no way to help bring their children. The husband was working, and occasionally he would not go home from another place, which led to her having to pick up the children after work and taking care of everything about the children themselves. Life is also mainly about saving money, because there are many burdens that need to be paid, and some sales can be spent without spending. A small part of the toys of the child is bought by herself, and most of them are given by others.

The original PO often heard them talking about children when they had dinner with them, such as child supplies or kindergartens. From the conversation, you can feel that A can give children a lot of choices and development, and consider the future of children more, while B is more inclined to the current stage of supplies and which care is cheaper, and then I hope that the children will be healthy in the future.

Comparison of the above situations will always make the original PO brain "copy sounds". Although friends A and friend B love their children very much and can give them full love, compared with that, the growth process of B's child is destined to be a little harder than A's child, and they are afraid that they will actually break the future of B's child with a blow.

But facing this kind of nurturing situation, friend B, who is not rich in life, actually said that he wanted to have another child in the near future, and believed that having love can overcome everything. The original PO was very stunned and couldn't help but feel that no matter how much love he had, level reproduction was really inevitable at the moment of birth.

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Should I be rich or rich? Children are not your extension, nor are they a nursing machine

This post quotes are widely cited, and netizens have left messages to express their opinions.

A netizen said that he really shouldn't have a baby if he doesn't have money, "What kind of child should he raise every month? This is basically a baby", "It may be good to raise a child, but two are really over budget", "How much did the house price in the past? How much did he make a house price in the past? He used to work hard and had a chance to change, but now he has a chance to die? It's hard to be born now, and he has to have a baby without money", "That kind of child who is almost unable to live, please don't have a baby, a bunch of love saying that he loves children, is it okay for children to be born? Is it super selfish? What's even more terrifying is that There is a kind of person who thinks it is so great that he is crazy and crazy, "I think that children don't need to be rich is just admiration, right? If you have money, you win at the starting point, and there are many resources for children with money. At least you won't argue because you don't have money, and you will be sad about your husband and wife." "You really shouldn't have children. When your child wants to learn music, dance and replenish, you can't afford it, and even his interest can't let him try, you really don't have children! Children are not your extension, nor are they a nurturing machine. They should have a starting line that at least doesn't drag down their own."

A netizen said that choosing to commit to a fetus is more important than hard work, "I can only say that it is better to commit to a rich man than his efforts", "The biggest effort is to choose a good place to take place during the sperm period", "If you decide, then you can reincarnate", "I will not want to be born in a low-income family; I will make up for pain throughout my life", "Only after leaving society, I know that love alone can't solve everything."

Some netizens also said that children must be rich if they cannot nourish themselves. "In fact, it depends on what the children think about themselves. Some people are very happy but don't compare them." "Is there anything wrong with nourishing? Why do children must be rich if they have nourishing?", "I think nourishing is a problem, but how to teach your children's correct thinking and healthy psychology in a poor environment."

6 points to evaluate whether you are suitable for having children

The cost of living has increased, and after giving birth, it will lead to a significant decline in the quality of life, which will lead to some people who believe that children should not have children, otherwise the child will suffer. Faced with such pressure on life, the following 6 points help you evaluate whether you are ready to welcome a new life:

1. Economic ability: To see whether the economic ability of an individual or family is sufficient to raise children, including the costs of care and education, housing and living expenses, etc.

2. Lifestyle: Check whether the lifestyle of an individual or family is suitable for raising children, including working hours, social life, travel plans, etc..

3. Physical and mental state: To see whether the physical and mental health of an individual or a couple is suitable for pregnancy and raising children.

4. Teaching and Care Concepts: To see whether the teaching concepts of individuals or families meet the needs of children, including how to cultivate their value and social abilities.

5.Life environment: To view whether the living environment of an individual or family is suitable for raising children, including the safety and convenience of the family and community.

6. Future Planning: To view whether the future planning of an individual or family can accommodate children's needs, including career planning, education planning and retirement planning.

The above evaluation method can help individuals or couples to consider more comprehensively whether to have children. In addition to economic, educational and life factors, personal psychological and emotional needs also need to be considered. The final decision should be based on the overall situation of the individual and the couple.